Love Blooms in April
For thousands of years, spring and love have been linked. They just go together like peanut butter and jelly. Spring is a time for rebirth when the earth awakens from winter dormancy. As the month of April arrives, the bees buzz, the birds sing and we fall in love.
Turns out there is actually a biological reason behind this long-time phenomenon. According to Dr. Helen Fischer, a professor at Rutgers University and neuroscientist, it’s all about dopamine. What is dopamine? It’s a brain chemical that creates desire for something new and causes a sense of euphoria…like love.
Think about spring – the time of year when perennials push above ground, daffodils and tulips bloom and trees flower. The visual variety of shapes and colors excites the brain after the starkness of winter and pumps up the dopamine. And that my friends, is why love blooms every spring.
Now, what are you going to do about this biological predisposition for love if you’re serious about finding it? Here’s how to make the most of the season and your elevated dopamine.
Make a Plan
Don’t leave love to chance or you could be waiting a long time. If you’ve left your 20’s behind, the opportunities to find the love of your life “organically” get much slimmer. You’ll need to set an intention to find love and go looking.
Use the Tools
Online dating, dating apps, Meetup.com, CTContacts.com, singles dances – these are the tools for modern love. First let’s talk about digital dating. I realize it might not be your favorite thing, but you can’t argue with the statistical success. Over 20% of relationships start on the web, and if you include social media, some say the results are as high as 35%.
It’s become harder than it used to be to find singles on Meetup.com and most events are at least 70% women. But you can make new friends too. The good thing about Meetup events is that they’re a low-pressure way to meet new people. The more you get accustomed to interacting with others, the easier it will get and the better you’ll be at it!
CTContacts.com runs singles dances in central and southwestern Connecticut. Don’t attend with a group. Go with one friend and mingle. Ladies, dance with as many men as possible rather than saying no all night. Dancing is fun and you aren’t committed after one dance. It’s a great way to have other men notice you so boogie and enjoy.
Get Fixed Up
Nearly 30% of couples meet through other people. That means you should accept all invitations to parties, gatherings and barbecues. Set a “No Excuses” policy for yourself and just go. Ask your friends and family members (who you feel safe with) to set you up on blind dates. Some blind dates are magical like when I met my husband. Yes, he was a blind date so they work!
If you are serious about finding love, make an effort to acknowledge and enjoy the love you have right now. The more loving you are, the more love you attract. Think about your family and friends who care for you deeply. You might have neighbors or colleagues who appreciate you or pets you treasure. Share your love with others too. An attitude of gratitude is highly magnetic.
Make it easier for people to meet you by being friendly. Look up, smile and have brief eye contact more often. The more you smile, the happier you are. Share a compliment with someone and make their day. You’ll feel good too. Make new friends – a bigger social circle increases your opportunities!
Expand Your World
Living a rich, fun, single life is another great way to meet your mate. Take a class, go to a lecture, try a new sport, join a gym, or listen to live music. Do more of whatever makes you happy. Get active in the world and meet new people.
Take advantage of springtime and love being in the air. The desire for love and a partner is deeply rooted in your DNA. Breathe in the fresh air and rejoice that a new season filled with romantic potential is here.
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