As the year unwinds and you begin to think about the next year, you may reflect on the years of the past. I wonder what the December 2021 you would say? Maybe you have manifested things you have wanted or feel like not much has changed. When approaching the new year, it’s important to focus on gaining clarity of your intention.
Resolution
Noun: The act of…determining upon an action, course of action, method, procedure, etc. A decision or determination: To make a firm resolution to do something, the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.
I think the problem with resolutions is that they’re really focused on something we feel we do not have. Resolutions can focus on what we need to “fix.”
If “fixing” hasn’t worked for you, try this: Instead of focusing on what you don’t want, try to shift your focus to what you do want. And even more importantly, how you will feel when you get there.
For example, if you’re not happy with your emotional well-being, you might say, “I don’t want this stress.” My question to you, then, would then be to ask you what is it that you DO want, and how would you FEEL when you get there. Maybe you answer, “I want to feel calm, relaxed, and peaceful.” The next step would be to ask yourself how you can create those feelings within yourself. How can you practice this state of being you are trying to achieve? It could be a simple walk around the block, a warm shower, or a nice cup of soup. We can cultivate the feelings we’re trying to achieve with small moments throughout our day.
Manifest Your Own Well-Being
Our thoughts create our feelings and behaviors. When we realize we can choose our thoughts our emotional well-being changes, and when that happens, we are truly in a state of being able to create our life experiences! To be clear, this doesn’t mean spiritual bypassing or fake toxic positivity. If you’re feeling not so great, this can be hard to do. We need to feel all our feelings to heal and get to where we need to be.
The intention here is to explain that when moving through heavy emotions, focusing on the process instead of the results can be a powerful way to get to where you want to be. Through this work of constantly reaching for better feelings and thoughts, your emotional well-being will begin to change. Little by little. If your old way of working toward your New Year’s resolution didn’t work for you, try this process. I like to call it, “New Year’s Transformation.”
We often think that when we get something we want and reach that goal, we will feel better. I am here to challenge you by saying that order does not usually get people to the place they want to be. First and foremost, work on feeling better in the now, and that goal will then be much more likely to appear in your life.
My integrated perspective on this comes from studying mindfulness and the law of attraction. I believe there are two powerful perspectives that can help us cultivate peace, joy, and bliss in our lives. The real moment is now—there is power in this moment and being able to find appreciation and gratitude for where you are today.
From this moment we get into alignment, we can find the balance between action and being. Having a monthly ritual of slowing down and taking time for yourself while being among a collective energy of like-minded people can be a powerful tool in managing the busy mind and creating peace within yourself. As you set your “resolutions,” please know that nothing needs to be “fixed”—come as you are. Instead of focusing on change, focus on the process. Take a mindful approach into the new year.
Samantha Alzate is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is the owner of Mindful Transformations Therapy Group. Samantha received her Master’s degree in Social Work with a concentration in group work. In addition, she also has received a Master’s certification in Conscious Studies and Transpersonal Psychology. Apart from traditional clinical education, Samantha is a certified Reiki Master and law of attraction coach.
She can be reached at: [email protected] or 860-308-2807